We all want a relationship where we feel fully loved, deeply understood, deeply valued, and where we walk the journey in complete harmony with another. Many times we are looking to the other person to provide us with what we want and need, when in truth, we simply mirror back that in which we give. We often have the idea that when the perfect person comes around, we will begin to be on our best behavior and that we will change when we meet him or her. The universal law is that we attract those that our similar in the energy we are projecting at any given time, which would mean that if we want another to be attentive, patient, non-judgmental, open in communication and understanding then it would be best to work on ourselves at the present moment, and every moment thereafter.

The most important achievement you can ever have in this life is your own happiness and the majority of all the happiness you will ever have will come from your personal relationships. Your interactions and the time you spend with the people you care about will be the major source of the pleasure, enjoyment, and satisfaction you have on a daily basis. The key to a happy family life is communication and the amount of time you spend with the people you love. It is not the quality of time, but the quantity of time that counts. The expression “quality time” is used by people to justify and excuse the fact that their lives are so disorganized that they do not spend much time with their spouse or their children. The fact is that quality time is a function of quantity. Quality moments are those little moments that are precious, unexpected, and important. They arise during the process of spending a large quantity of uninterrupted time with another person. You can’t dictate these moments in advance and you can’t decide to have quality time. You don’t go to it. It comes to you.